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Erin Shetron's avatar

as a woman who is literally, at this very moment, planning a solo "offline" weekend and will also be spending all week very much online, all of this. I keep thinking about what Liz Gilbert writes in Big Magic, "the paradox of creativity is that it matters deeply, and also it doesn't matter at all." trying to hold it lightly, trying to take it very seriously. trying, trying. at least we're trying.

Kelly Klein's avatar

What a fantastic quote

Debbie Weil's avatar

ooo solo offline weekend… you are giving me ideas!

Wiss's avatar

Something felt off about the recurring going offline discourse. Now I know why. Thank you!

Valerie's avatar

❤️ thank you for seeing what i see

Chrissy's avatar

this was SO brilliant and describes a feeling i’ve tangled with for years as i endlessly delete and redownload instagram/tiktok. I love what you said about “negotiating with the machine” and biting your tail, such good writing. i’m a 1998 baby too and it’s so difficult to discern where our agency ends and exploitation begins

Valerie's avatar

thank you so much Chrissy ❤️ appreciate it beyond words

Rita's avatar

Among all the aspects of this essay that you absolutely nailed, I’d love to give a standing ovation to this helluva title. Every woman out there (umm hello!) will see this and go, “literally me”

Valerie's avatar

haha it was honestly a working title that felt fun enough to keep in the end

Rita's avatar

You chose wisely

allie wisniewski's avatar

thank you for so gorgeously articulating the incommunicable inner monologue i've been harboring. favorite thing i've read in a while, and not just because i feel noticeably less insane

Valerie's avatar

Allie! Thank you!

Caroline Beuley's avatar

You are inside my brain. Loved this Valerie -- been thinking a lot lately about how being offline is a privilege and how impossible the old trope of a reclusive writer feels today.

maja roglić's avatar

Want to restack every sentence in this you have done it again

Valerie's avatar

MAJA ❣️

tulipe⋆. 𐙚 ̊'s avatar

hi, valerie! i’m not exaggerating when i say that finding this space feels like getting out of the stuffy room that is the internet of today. i’m incredibly grateful to the friend who pointed me here, and a little mystified that i managed to miss it for so long. as someone constantly searching and searching endlessly to read something intellectually rigorous ns stylistically distinctive and truly original, your voice feels refreshingly singular. i’m so excited to follow along.

and so grateful to my friend for leading me here!!!!

Valerie's avatar

this is the most beautiful thing I’ve seen all week - thank you so so much 🧚🏻 your words have found me at the right time :) welcome!!

tulipe⋆. 𐙚 ̊'s avatar

that means a lot! so glad our word found each other at the right time. and thank you! you’re so talented x

sarah cucchiara's avatar

this is wonderful

Valerie's avatar

thank you my love!!

ayan artan's avatar

you ate down beloved

Valerie's avatar

AYAN <3 i bow down to you always

Kelly Klein's avatar

Fantastic and sad but also kinda humorous. Thank you, so awesome

Valerie's avatar

Ahh thank you Kelly - means a lot!

iris's avatar

first of all, you never miss. second of all, thank you for this.

Valerie's avatar

thank YOU for reading 🤍

used to muse's avatar

adore this. so well written.

Valerie's avatar

thank you so much <3

corinne behnke's avatar

perfection

Valerie's avatar

thank you for reading ❣️

Kate Griem's avatar

Fucking obsessed with this essay and your writing shoutout you and the universe for making my Monday

Suni's avatar

this is so interesting… what if the woman is online but private? what if she indulges in the space that she’s created in her corner of the web, making it pretty, curating it. would she still be compelled to go offline?